BROKEN BAND AID or TRUE RECOVERY?

I Believe We Can Do Much Better.  What Do YOU THINK?

Folks, take a look around you.  The predominant ideology is to blame the addict, who we call sick, incapable, immoral, based on behavior that stems from a habit.  Instead of helping them figure out WHY they have this habit, we slap a label on them.

Even worse than a useless LABEL, is the solution we subject them to, that will never help them get well.  Please tell me what makes you think a lifetime of re-hashing past mistakes in a program based on religion makes sense for someone you claim to LOVE?  

Is this the first or hundredth time you've tried this?

Don't you think it's about time to realize THE CULT does absolutely nothing to cure the problem and steals it's bread and butter from your "loved one's" livelihood?

How long are you willing to forgo a healthy relationship with this person?  Forever?  Because that could be how long they waste away if everyone continues to believe substances are the devil that made them do it - worse, is how we're told we can't ever STOP IT!

The fact of the matter is this is NOT TRUE.  Substance ABUSE is what makes people act like the crazy people ANYONE will become with repetitious abuse of themselves.

The question to ask is "WHY ARE THEY ABUSING?"  Ditch the LABELS (LIES) for one second and TAKE A LOOK.  Could it be YOU?  THEIR FAMILY? UPBRINGING? PAST RELATIONSHIPS? PAIN?  

There is something that is causing a person to abuse substances.  It's not a "disease."  It is more complicated than that. Substance abuse stems from personal issues that can be solved, if approached in a productive way that fosters health through independence and self actualization.

Twelve step groups are nothing but a band aid, that only sticks to a certain type of person's skin.  The person these programs work for need to evade responsibility because THEY CAN'T HANDLE IT.

A lot of us can.

What about us?

What about the person who never wanted to get sober to begin with?  When you really look at it, who the hell DOES WANT TO GET SOBER?  Especially, when substances make us feel so DAMNED GOOD?  

Why would anyone do anything that would make it so they could NEVER party in safety again?

There is something wrong with a person whom abuses substances and it goes way deeper than any label could possibly cover.  

Believe me, I KNOW.  I was depressed, suicidal, unhappy, confused, alone, desperate, you name it. I went to rehab and twelve step groups for help, but continued to get worse, until I left, quite by accident.

Time away from the bullshit, helped me wake up to what I could have, should have, would have known ALL A LONG, if I wasn't LIED TO!

Getting high 24/7 is no way to move ahead in life.  First there is the issue of emotional stunting that happens as soon as anyone starts abusing booze, drugs, food, etc.  

Add that to every human's inability to function under the ABUSED influence of mood altering substances, and you have some one who will not succeed. 

This is common sense, even a five year old will understand.  YET, the person still continues to abuse themselves with their chosen substance.

WHY?

Nobody wants to ask that question because it's not rhetorical, like the "DISEASE MODEL."  If we asked "WHY?" instead of shoving a person into a program that cannot fix the problem, we might have to admit accountability.

Yeah, it can be PAINFUL.  

Who wants to admit they've made mistakes?  NO ONE.  Sorry to burst your bubble, but there was a mistake made somewhere - and it ain't in the GENES!

People who abuse substances are emotionally, mentally and, more than likely, physically incapable of living life on life's terms because they don't know how.

No one showed them, someone hurt them, or something happened to make them feel bad.  Somewhere along the way, they found a short cut to feel better.  

That short cut became a habit that blocked nature's cycle of maturity where people learn to be responsible adults. 

In essence, substance abuse confuses them, then we (stupidly) encourage everyone around them to abandon them to a living death at the hand of the TREATMENT INDUSTRY CARTEL and Twelve Step DOGMA.

What if we looked at the problem differently?  Leave the labels and easy answers to the side for a minute and think about the person you are about to abandon. 

This is probably your flesh and blood, you grew up together, raised them, didn't raise them, whatever.  

Could there be a reason, you know of, that could cause your loved one to think or feel that success is out of their reach?

Forget about anything and everything that has to do with BEHAVIOR resulting from their substance abuse (since it is not THEM).  Ask yourself if you love this person enough to find out what is wrong?  

Will you make a true amends to them for doing it (if you had a part)?  Or, help them get therapy to deal with it?  OR, are you willing to submit to the lie that hasn't worked since the early 30's?

BROKEN BAND AID or TRUE RECOVERY?

'Til Next Time,

  




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